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Dear Delriece...
I am a High Priest and a counselor of sorts myself. Although I have
found that answering the questions of others is much easier than answering
some of my own. My current problem is between myself and my fiancee. We
have been together a bit over a year and are finally ready to take the
big plunge and get married. My problem is that I am Wiccan and she is a
Lutheran Christian. How would one go about getting married with such a
difference in beliefs and without treading on ground that would make
them feel completely out of place?
Magnus in Joshua TX
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Dear Magnus,
There's no shame in coming to others for help. I turn to others when I need advice as well of course!
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage! My advice is that the first step is to find out what the marriage and the ceremony means to each of you. The answer may be an indication of a lifelong committment as well as a sacred ritual that honors the moment and the love that you share. Brainstorm with each other about traditions that are important to each of you. Just as a Christian and a Pagan may share certain warm memories about the Yuletide season such as a mistletoe and good food on the table, you may find that you share ideas of traditional things that may mean a lot to you.
Find out the few things that are vital to each of you. How important is it to her that it takes place in a church? How important is it to you that you tie a ribbon around your arms in symbolic union? You may wish to each write your own vows that reflect the true meaning of the ceremony.
Light!
Delriece
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