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Dear Delriece...
i have been having such a hard time latley.i broke up
with my boyfriend of 4 years. the next day he was already seeing
someone else and brought her to the club were we went and really put on a
show in front of me! i did react and now i'm not feeling so good about my
retatiation. it is not like me to behave in a revengeful way, but over
the course of our relationship, he put me through so much, and really,
my retaliation was only a fraction of the things he done to me. all the
while he swore j
his love for me, told me that i was his life. and just 2 weeks ago he
came to my house and declared that i would see his love for me and he
would prove to me how stronge his love was. he said he wanted to get
past the negativity and make it work with me. now 2 weeks later, it's
worse than ever and he's flaunted another woman in my face in front of
my/our friends. i am very hurt and humiliated by this man. he did drink
a lot, but of course when he wasn't drinking..."he was the sweetest
person..." and i loved that person whole heartedly. i have never taken so
much crap from ANYBODY!! and i am really questioning myself now. why
did i allow myself to be put through such an emotional rollercoaster?
when he came into my life, i didn't even WANT a boyfriend, in fact it
took him 3 months just to my phone number. i was happy being me back
then and was surprised to find myself in a relationship and even more
surprised that it turned into such a bad expierience for me. what!
can i do at this point for myself? i need to get past the pain and
humiliation. my retaliation in this matter was a side of myself even i
didn't know existed. i need to lay it all down and move forward. i was
born apr 14,1963 and he was born jul 9,1963 if that helps. on top of
all this i am fighting for full custody of my 12 yr old son, i work 2
jobs and my full time job if very stressful right now. sometimes i
wonder how much more i am suppose to take. and during this time i guess i'm
mad at my recent boyfriend for adding more grief to me instead of being
a support to me. this has been a rough year and i'm ready for some
positive changes. do you think things will start looking up? thanks for
your advice
Doing Hard Time in Oklahoma City OK
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Dear Doing hard time,
I think that many of us have been on the wrong side of the end of a long relationship, myself included. And, although I know this sounds annoying, time does heal all wounds and things will look up.
Remember how happy you were before him? You are still that same person, just with a little more wisdom and life experience under your belt. As soon as you adjust, you will learn to be happy again. Love is blind and that is why you fooled yourself for so long. This man sounds very immature and you should pity him rather than stay angry.
I'd suggest getting some regular therapy so that you can carry on with life and be ready to get custody of your son, Gods willing.
Light!
Delriece
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