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Dear Delriece...
I'm a Taurus woman (18/May/65 18:05 Brazil, Sao Paulo)
married with a Pisces man (27/Feb/63 06:40 Brazil, Sao Paulo
for 15 years now (but we've been together for 21 years now).
The past 10th. August he told me that he wanted the divorce
because he wanted to keep traveling (he is an international
sales manager, and I am Software Engineer), also because
there were "a lot of differences" between us (after 21 years he noted
that!)
and he didn't have any time for me any more.
I could not believe that and I started searching for
evidences of another woman in his life, what I found.
My husband is the kind of person that wants perfection
in everything and he is not happy with anything. He is very instable
and has changed his job many times and he cheated on
me once 14 years ago. That time he left me with our daugther
to live with his affair.
But things were not so good as he thought and he came back
three years later after being cheated and losing a lot of money.
This time he is having a affair with his boss' sister,
who also works in the same company as a manager. He has been
having this affair since January. As he is quite ambitious, I
think he is also expecting a promotion and a porcentage
in the company.
My question is: Is my husband going to come back to me again? when?
Catarina in Starrkirch
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Dear Catarina,
From what you've told me it sounds like he may not know what he wants at all. If he does come back to you it may not be permanent. In similar situations to yours I have seen the man come back repeatedly, but for short periods. My suggestion for this situation is that you try not to rely on him and don't get your hopes up. Please take proper precautions with him and use condoms as you would with anyone who has multiple partners. Couples counseling may help if he comes back wanting to save the relationship.
Light!
Delriece
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