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A Personal Approach to Door Supervising

Part 6 - Social Skills

By Ronnie Gamble (c) 2001 2002

Table of Contents Part 6 - Social Skills - Subjects

Part 1 -  Basic Door Work

Part 2  - Intermediate Skills

Part 3  - The Psychology

Part 4  - Physical Intervention

Part 5  -  Situational Drills

Part 6 - Social Skills

Part 7 - Tips & Tricks

Part 8 - Fighting Notes 

Part 9 - Training Notes 

Part 10 - Emergency Plans

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Introduction

 

Disability Awareness
Disability Etiquette

De-escalation and Escalation - How to Win Six Rounds

More to  follow

 

Introduction

Subjects  cooperation, examples, general attitudes, minority, genuine greviance, drunks, 

Disability Awareness

Introduction   As a professional DS it is important that you learn how to interact positively with all the patrons at your venue so that they have a positive attitude towards that venue. You must learn how to behave in a non-discriminatory manner with the patrons. Interact with everyone with some degree of empathy for their religion, politics, gender orientation, sex, sexual preferences, race, age and finally, their physical and mental abilities. Inappropriate comments or behaviour can lead to misunderstandings that may ruin the reputation of your venue. For example, There have been instances of people being ejected for drunkenness simply because;

  • They were partially sighted and had lost their cane
  • A person with slurred speech and a mobility problem due to a stroke
  • A diabetic with an insulin problem was falling asleep

 In this section, I will introduce the basic information you will need in order to interact and behave properly with individuals who have a disability.

People with disabilities are not one stereotypical group that can be addressed in a standardised manner. Again, they are similar to all other patrons, with their own particular needs. You have to learn how to interact with all patrons and their form of disability so that you do not;

  • Behave inappropriately or discriminate 
  • Simply freeze because of your ignorance about a particular disability
  • Ignore the individual

Quick Guide to Disabled Awareness Do's and Don'ts

  • Do help someone in a wheelchair when asked, or offer help if you see them having difficulty
  • Do kneel down when talking to someone in a wheelchair
  • Do not invade personal space. Wheelchairs and walking frames are personal items
  • Do not patronise, talk loudly, lose your patience, turn into a comedian, be overly friendly,  paternalistic or condescending with individuals who have any form of impairment
  • Do ask the patrons what they either prefer, need or want if necessary, you may be doing it all wrong
  • Do remove obstructions from the floor so that the wheelchair has easy access
  • Do not feel embarrassed or self-conscious - keep eye-contact without staring at the person you are addressing
  • Do let visually impaired patrons take your arm to help guide them around the bar. Always warn them of any hazards like low ceilings or steps and corners
  • Do not assume that visually impaired patrons are totally blind. Only a small percentage of registered blind people are completely blind
  • Do offer the Braille menu if appropriate
  • Do allow access to Guide Dogs or Hearing Dogs for the blind and deaf and their owners
  • Do treat all the patrons at your venue with dignity, courtesy, patience and respect  

Definitions  A patron with a disability or impairment is, in the first instance, a person.  Do not talk about “the handicapped” or “the deaf “ but do learn to talk about “the wheelchair user” or “the person who is slightly deaf”. Make a point of always prefixing your description of a person with a disability with the phrase “A person with a (Specify it)…….impairment”.  A disability may be a result of an accident, genetics, disease or a stroke and this can affect individuals either mentally or physically.  For example, someone suffering from the after effects of a stroke may have difficulties in speaking, understanding, reading or writing, handling money or telling the time. 

Approximately 20% of the population have an impairment that stops them functioning to the same extent as the remaining 80%. This inability to take a fully functional role in their community or society is, in part, due to the restrictions and handicaps placed by society itself. This includes:

  • Poor disability awareness training for the general population who remain prejudiced and  ignorant with stereotypical views on impairments
  • Failure to use common sense while interacting with  individuals who have an impairment. For example, refusing to allow guide dogs into some venues
  • No staff training on the subject of dealing with patrons who have disabilities which leads to misunderstandings and embarrassment
  • Lack of training facilities or trainers in the workplace to cater for individuals with disabilities
  • Inadequate facilities at venues for wheelchair users, i.e. no user friendly toilets, difficult access to the front of the stage, no emergency escape procedures, narrow doorways, steps rather than ramps, emergency exits clogged with rubbish and on and on and on

                                                Get Up And Walk        Take A Chance         On your Own             The Fire Escape?      Ambiguity  for Males                                        

People with disabilities have varying degrees and forms of disability. In some cases, an individual may have several disabilities, these disabilities include:

  • Physical or mobility impairments
  • Physical disfigurements
  • Total blindness or vision impairments
  • Profound deafness or hearing impairments
  • Speech or language impairment
  • Cognitive, developmental or learning disabilities and learning difficulties

Disability Etiquette

Disabled people should be welcomed into all venues. They must be treated no differently to anyone else, other than to make allowances for their specific condition. If you have a situation where you are unsure of what to do, consult either the head supervisor or duty bar manager, if you have the time, that is. Always remember you are dealing with a person who has feelings and personal needs, if you are really unsure, ask them directly for advice.

Patrons who look different

Facing the public can be a traumatic experience for some people who have either facial or physical disfigurements. They may have been born with their condition or it may result from a serious illness, an operation or an accident. You must have the skill to see beyond the surface to the real person, their wants, needs, fears and real personality. This section is really a common sense shortlist for dealing with all patrons at your venue.

  • Always address directly the person you have to communicate with, not their friends or care giver.
  • Interact with everyone visiting your venue and help to make their stay enjoyable
  • Never ignore someone, simply because of their impairment or appearance. 
  • Do not stare. You must converse with the patron and act normally
  • Do not make the patron feel uncomfortable. Always act naturally
  • The persons physical appearance disguises  their true personality
  • Listen to what the person is saying and respond positively

Patrons with Physical or Mobility Impairments:

  • Get down to the wheelchair user's eye level and use your normal body language and verbal language
  • Do not lean or stand on the wheelchair or walking frame. Always respect personal space and property
  • Do not assume the patron has to be pushed. Some wheelchairs are motor assisted
  • Always ask the patron if they want you to push them
  • Make sure there is a clear path of travel
  • Offer a chair if the patron is expected to wait about your area. This also applies to the elderly and the pregnant
  • When addressing a wheelchair pusher to go to a specific place, do not say “Please take your wheelchair to..” They are not taking an object (their wheelchair) to a specific door, they are most likely taking the person they love/their friend (in a wheelchair) to a specific place
  • Prevent misunderstandings through training, practice and more practice.

Patrons who are Totally Blind or Visually Impaired

  • Never assume total blindness
  • Look for the visual signs. This includes white canes, lapel badges or guide dogs
  • Speak to the patron when you first approach them. Say, "Hello, My name is…" speaking at your normal volume and speed
  • Never touch, pet or distract a guide dog while it is working
  • If it is necessary for you to escort the patron, either: allow the customer to hold your arm, or place your upper arm close to theirs and they will follow your lead
  • Give the patron verbal information about the environment you are moving through. This includes loud noises or changes in the ground surface
  • When approaching a step or curb say, " Curb/Step up/down"
  • When offering a seat, place the patron's hand on the back of the chair. No other help is required
  • Always say "Good Bye" when you leave the patron. Do not leave the individual talking to an empty space
  • Prevent misunderstandings through training, practice and more practice.

Patrons who are Profoundly Deaf or Hearing Impaired

  • Gain the patron's attention before starting a conversation; identify yourself
  • Position yourself so that your face is well lit for the patron
  • Always address the person you are communicating with, not their friend or care giver
  • Avoid background noises, this impairs hearing, even more
  • Speak without shouting
  • Expect to repeat your sentence until comprehension is reached
  • Look directly at the customer, speak clearly, and keep your hands away from your mouth as they may be able to read your lips
  • Speak more slowly than normal, this allows the patron to comprehend you
  • Use short words as well as the more common words if possible
  • Ask the patron if they would like to communicate by writing
  • Prevent misunderstandings through training, practice and more practice.

Patrons with Speech or Language Impairments

  • If you do not understand what the patron is saying, ask them to repeat themselves
  • Ask more closed than open questions, that is, questions that require short answers, yes or no
  • Do not anticipate what the patron is going to say, allow them to finish their sentence
  • If you are having real difficulties in understanding what the patron is saying, ask them to write it down, if they can
  • Prevent misunderstandings through training, practice and more practice.

Patrons with Cognitive, Developmental or Learning Disabilities/Learning Difficulties

  • You may have to repeat yourself several times, without shouting, until an understanding is reached
  • Allow extra time for the person to respond  to your questions or greetings
  • Be patient and observant, try not to patronise the patron by using over simplified language
  • If the person is lost, afraid, distressed or disorientated, check their clothing for name and address tags
  • Prevent misunderstandings through training, practice and more practice

De-escalation and Escalation - How to Win Six Rounds

Brinkmanship, the veiled threat, numerical or physical dominance,  escalation, de-escalation and  verbosity are the best tools in the trade. These tools can be used to stop a situation from going ballistic. After years on the doors you will be subject to all forms of attack. This includes threats, punches, kicks and insults. Occasionally you will get  lumps  in your trousers from a good threat. You remember these moments and go on to use these threats and postures yourself. This is because you are always trying to keep trouble away from both the door and the floor without fighting. Physical fights will ruin the venue's reputation and you will be out of work when the patrons stop visiting.

The following scenario came about because the individual involved in the ejection had a working knowledge of the door.  Because of  his  knowledge he decided to push my patience and good nature to the limit by  posturing and ignoring my polite requests for him to leave the venue quietly. This is not a very common problem, as most former and active DS will acquiesce  to your requests, respecting the difficult role you have. It is not advisable for you to escalate a situation in order to resolve it. But, provided you have the numerical strength and ability  to influence the opposition,  you can over power them without fighting.

Round One  You and your back up are asked by the bar manager to approach an individual who appears to have upset one of the female bar staff. The bar staff can be extremely sensitive at times, particularly so when they think they have their own personal rotweillers on standby. You go to the bar counter along with your back up.

You. "Excuse me sir, you appear to have upset one of the bar staff with your verbal abuse. The bar staff are refusing to serve you and the bar manager wants you to leave the venue."

First round to you. It's the bar manager who wants the individual off the venue, not you. That way there is no direct confrontation. You are just the messenger.

Round Two

The Individual. "Are you throwing me out, man?"  The individual, an ex-bouncer, folds his arms and towers over you.

You. "No sir, I'm not throwing you out. I am asking you to leave the venue. You are no longer welcome. Come back tomorrow if you want."

Second round to you.  All your remaining teeth are still secure. As well as that, your ears and nose have not been nibbled away. You have verbally  dodged  the direct confrontation again. The individual has also been introduced to the concept that he is unwelcome and is now  a trespasser. The individual has not been barred from the venue yet. If he behaves himself he knows that he can come back tomorrow.

Round Three

The Individual. "I've just paid for this drink and I'm not leaving it."

You. "That's OK sir, you can finish your drink. You have five minutes to do that".

Third round to you. You have met every objection with a de-escalating response. The individual is now on a deadline to leave the venue within the next five minutes. He has taken a verbal battering so far and you have not flinched from completing your objective.

Round Four

One of the bar staff.  "Why is that ass hole still in the bar?" 

You to the bar manager. "When I'm working on a guy tell your bar staff to keep their noses out. I'll speak to you later about this."

Round Four to you again.  Keep your cool and control the incident at your own pace. Your objective is to remove the individual from the venue without anyone going to jail or going to hospital or the other patrons being traumatized. Your objective is definitely  not based on the hysterical ravings of the 'upset' bar staff.

Round Five

The Individual. After three minutes he walks from the bar counter to his table and picks up another bottle to start drinking again.

You. From your vantage point on the stairs, you shout across the bar, "You  still  have five minutes and counting!"

The Individual. "Don't try that shit on me man!"

You. Splay out your hand and shout again, "Five minutes and counting!"

The Individual. He mutters away to his friends and then leaves the venue with his bottle.

Round Five to you. Initially I had tried the Mr. Nice Guy approach, prepared to state my case and allow the individual to leave the venue with his dignity intact as possible. For round five, he pushed his luck so I deliberately escalated the situation. I was prepared to go physical and I let the whole bar know that. All this despite the fact that my scrotum was now so tight my nuts were crushed. I would probably have walked up to the individual with a limp. My cover was just as bad. The protracted incident and the lack of activity had caused his adrenalin to rush. He was shaking like a leaf, ready to rumble.

Round Six

You  to the bar manager. "I'm getting rather annoyed by your bar staff interjecting when I'm working on a guy". Or words to that effect.

Bar manager. "Yes, but they were listening to him when you walked back to  your vantage point with your cover. He was saying things like, he will leave in his own good time, nobody was going to throw him out".

You. "He was off the premises within five minutes of my initial approach to him. Nobody went to jail, nobody went to hospital and nobody in the bar was traumatized. What's the problem?

The bar manager.  "No problem. That's the way it should be"

Sixth round to you. Slighted bar staff are inclined to get  upset when you don't behave like their personal rotweillers and tear a smart assed  patron apart in front of them.

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Ronnie Gamble, the author of this article, is a Control and Restraint Instructor. He also has a BSc. (Hons) in Social Psychology and Sociology. At present he is researching into group behavior at social events and also, planning a training programme for Door Supervisors and Stewards.


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