By Ronnie Gamble (c) 2001 2002
| Table of Contents | Part 6 - Social Skills - Subjects |
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Introduction
Disability Awareness
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Introduction
Subjects cooperation, examples, general attitudes, minority, genuine greviance, drunks,
Introduction As a professional DS it is important that you learn how to interact positively with all the patrons at your venue so that they have a positive attitude towards that venue. You must learn how to behave in a non-discriminatory manner with the patrons. Interact with everyone with some degree of empathy for their religion, politics, gender orientation, sex, sexual preferences, race, age and finally, their physical and mental abilities. Inappropriate comments or behaviour can lead to misunderstandings that may ruin the reputation of your venue. For example, There have been instances of people being ejected for drunkenness simply because;
In this section, I will introduce the basic information you will need in order to interact and behave properly with individuals who have a disability.
People with disabilities are not one stereotypical group that can be addressed in a standardised manner. Again, they are similar to all other patrons, with their own particular needs. You have to learn how to interact with all patrons and their form of disability so that you do not;
Quick Guide to Disabled Awareness Do's and Don'ts
Definitions A patron with a disability or impairment is, in the first instance, a person. Do not talk about the handicapped or the deaf but do learn to talk about the wheelchair user or the person who is slightly deaf. Make a point of always prefixing your description of a person with a disability with the phrase A person with a (Specify it) .impairment. A disability may be a result of an accident, genetics, disease or a stroke and this can affect individuals either mentally or physically. For example, someone suffering from the after effects of a stroke may have difficulties in speaking, understanding, reading or writing, handling money or telling the time.
Approximately 20% of the population have an impairment that stops them functioning to the same extent as the remaining 80%. This inability to take a fully functional role in their community or society is, in part, due to the restrictions and handicaps placed by society itself. This includes:





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People with disabilities have varying degrees and forms of disability. In some cases, an individual may have several disabilities, these disabilities include:
Disabled people should be welcomed into all venues. They must be treated no differently to anyone else, other than to make allowances for their specific condition. If you have a situation where you are unsure of what to do, consult either the head supervisor or duty bar manager, if you have the time, that is. Always remember you are dealing with a person who has feelings and personal needs, if you are really unsure, ask them directly for advice.
Patrons who look different
Facing the public can be a traumatic experience for some people who have either facial or physical disfigurements. They may have been born with their condition or it may result from a serious illness, an operation or an accident. You must have the skill to see beyond the surface to the real person, their wants, needs, fears and real personality. This section is really a common sense shortlist for dealing with all patrons at your venue.
Patrons with Physical or Mobility Impairments:
Patrons who are Totally Blind or Visually Impaired
Patrons who are Profoundly Deaf or Hearing Impaired
Patrons with Speech or Language Impairments
Patrons with Cognitive, Developmental or Learning Disabilities/Learning Difficulties
De-escalation and Escalation - How to Win Six Rounds
Brinkmanship, the veiled threat, numerical or physical dominance, escalation, de-escalation and verbosity are the best tools in the trade. These tools can be used to stop a situation from going ballistic. After years on the doors you will be subject to all forms of attack. This includes threats, punches, kicks and insults. Occasionally you will get lumps in your trousers from a good threat. You remember these moments and go on to use these threats and postures yourself. This is because you are always trying to keep trouble away from both the door and the floor without fighting. Physical fights will ruin the venue
's reputation and you will be out of work when the patrons stop visiting.The following scenario came about because the individual involved in the ejection had a working knowledge of the door. Because of his knowledge he decided to push my patience and good nature to the limit by posturing and ignoring my polite requests for him to leave the venue quietly. This is not a very common problem, as most former and active DS will acquiesce to your requests, respecting the difficult role you have. It is not advisable for you to escalate a situation in order to resolve it. But, provided you have the numerical strength and ability to influence the opposition, you can over power them without fighting.
Round One You and your back up are asked by the bar manager to approach an individual who appears to have upset one of the female bar staff. The bar staff can be extremely sensitive at times, particularly so when they think they have their own personal rotweillers on standby. You go to the bar counter along with your back up.
You. "Excuse me sir, you appear to have upset one of the bar staff with your verbal abuse. The bar staff are refusing to serve you and the bar manager wants you to leave the venue."
First round to you. It's the bar manager who wants the individual off the venue, not you. That way there is no direct confrontation. You are just the messenger.
Round Two
The Individual. "Are you throwing me out, man?" The individual, an ex-bouncer, folds his arms and towers over you.
You. "No sir, I'm not throwing you out. I am asking you to leave the venue. You are no longer welcome. Come back tomorrow if you want."
Second round to you. All your remaining teeth are still secure. As well as that, your ears and nose have not been nibbled away. You have verbally dodged the direct confrontation again. The individual has also been introduced to the concept that he is unwelcome and is now a trespasser. The individual has not been barred from the venue yet. If he behaves himself he knows that he can come back tomorrow.
Round Three
The Individual. "I've just paid for this drink and I'm not leaving it."
You. "That's OK sir, you can finish your drink. You have five minutes to do that".
Third round to you. You have met every objection with a de-escalating response. The individual is now on a deadline to leave the venue within the next five minutes. He has taken a verbal battering so far and you have not flinched from completing your objective.
Round Four
One of the bar staff. "Why is that ass hole still in the bar?"
You to the bar manager. "When I'm working on a guy tell your bar staff to keep their noses out. I'll speak to you later about this."
Round Four to you again. Keep your cool and control the incident at your own pace. Your objective is to remove the individual from the venue without anyone going to jail or going to hospital or the other patrons being traumatized. Your objective is definitely not based on the hysterical ravings of the 'upset' bar staff.
Round Five
The Individual. After three minutes he walks from the bar counter to his table and picks up another bottle to start drinking again.
You. From your vantage point on the stairs, you shout across the bar, "You still have five minutes and counting!"
The Individual. "Don't try that shit on me man!"
You. Splay out your hand and shout again, "Five minutes and counting!"
The Individual. He mutters away to his friends and then leaves the venue with his bottle.
Round Five to you. Initially I had tried the Mr. Nice Guy approach, prepared to state my case and allow the individual to leave the venue with his dignity intact as possible. For round five, he pushed his luck so I deliberately escalated the situation. I was prepared to go physical and I let the whole bar know that. All this despite the fact that my scrotum was now so tight my nuts were crushed. I would probably have walked up to the individual with a limp. My cover was just as bad. The protracted incident and the lack of activity had caused his adrenalin to rush. He was shaking like a leaf, ready to rumble.
Round Six
You to the bar manager. "I'm getting rather annoyed by your bar staff interjecting when I'm working on a guy". Or words to that effect.
Bar manager. "Yes, but they were listening to him when you walked back to your vantage point with your cover. He was saying things like, he will leave in his own good time, nobody was going to throw him out".
You. "He was off the premises within five minutes of my initial approach to him. Nobody went to jail, nobody went to hospital and nobody in the bar was traumatized. What's the problem?
The bar manager. "No problem. That's the way it should be"
Sixth round to you. Slighted bar staff are inclined to get upset when you don't behave like their personal rotweillers and tear a smart assed patron apart in front of them.
Ronnie Gamble, the author of this article, is a Control and Restraint Instructor. He also has a BSc.
(Hons) in Social Psychology and Sociology. At present he is researching into group behavior at social events and also, planning a training programme for Door Supervisors and Stewards.
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