And I am also putting the blame on the men, as well as the women. BOth whom should have firstly taken as much precaution as they could to AVOID pregnancy, but were just careless enough to think that "Just one time won't be any danger." And for thinking that prevention is full proof... dears... NOTHING IS FULL PROOF, nothing but abstinence. If you DON'T want unexpected pregnancy, DON'T risk it!

And if you and your guy are not committed, or never planned on getting married and things like that, Don't expect that he will want to stick around for you when he's done banging you up good enough that you're carrying his kid in your womb. ESPECIALLY TEENAGERS!

That's why you find new born babies dead in the dumpsters then. Hospital bills are heavy, families still rarely support their girl who was stupid enough to get pregnant by a louse. And during your teenage years, you have enough responsibility as it is, and I don't think that the added burden would be welcomed.

I will admit that a lot of people who've been through it did manage to come out and bring up that child well though. But there are also so many whom brought that child to the world just to get wasted by it, because being pregnant when you don't want to be changes your whole life. Especially when you're still so young, suddenly all those windows of opportunity closes and the doors slam in your face. Then the illegitement child ends up suffering for your mistakes. There would be that stigma, the feeling of being unloved and all those which the child will have to face.

Why am I writing about this now?

First it was my little friends sister, age 23, who found she was pregnant, and her boyfriend said "Adios baby!" when he found out about it. Being Asian, girls for the most are still dependent on their parents until they are married. Anyway, she ended up aborting and going back to the same boyfriend who dumped her. Honestly I don't see the sense in that.

And another friend of mine who likes to come to me for advice. I knew that him and his gf living together would not be a good idea. But the girls mother had thrown her out of the house so he was trying to help her. Fine. I told him that it was not the safest situation, but he said he knew she wasn't the one for him... Now she's 7 month's pregnant with his child. She's 19 too, and has a low paying part time job. He is supporting his family because his father passed away, and his mom can't support the family alone, and his older brother is another lousy loafer eating up on the family income without adding to it. Over the past two years he has almost had nothing else to ever talk to me about aside from the stress his family is causing him. 

Now the gal is pregnant, and they are "sorta committed" (his words), she wants them to be married so that the child would be legit, but he isn't happy about that because he doesn't think that she's the gal for him. SO WHY THE HELL DID HE STILL SLEEP WITH HER KNOWING THAT?? They had broken up 4 months before she had to move in with him. He was dating and sleeping with another girl but broke it off when he thought that she was falling in love with him.

I admit that I don't always find it nice talking to him and trying to be supportive even though he's a dear friend to me. Our values completely differ. It actually makes me sick at times. I hate it when people take relationships and sexual intercourse so lightly.

Then this is what happens... An innocent unborn child comes into the picture and all Hell breaks loose.

*sigh*

There were reasons why in the olden times the elders would check the beds of the newly married couple for spotting. Why it was important at one time in the west for girls to value their chastity. I am glad that it is still not truly accepted in the Eastern Culture and by religions though. Consummation should only ever come AFTER marriage.
 
...I know that not all Asian women now a days value their chastity as much either. And in this I am also ruling out prostitutes and such, because you know for the most, they are on birth control, and would rather abort the fetus rather than take the months off the streets. But in regards to the normal everyday family, it's still not accepted in Asia, though I will also admit that the younger generation is taking in both the good and bad of the western culture, and beginning to hold chastity as loosely as it is there.
For the Muslims in the olden days, a girl who loses her virginity unwed, would have been stoned to death or outcasted and such. I don't agree to such extremities, but the reason it was done was so that they would be too scared to act out of line.

For Hindu's until today they still practice arranged marriages, for the most of the population the parents still have alot of control over the girl until she is married. I have a friend who is 32 years old, still living with her parents, unmarried, and yes, she is a virgin, and she is such a gem! And another friend of mine who just got married recently, he's got a fabulous job and a great personality, and at the age of 36, it wasn't until the night of his wedding that he first experienced love making... There's a reason why people wait. It makes the experience ever the more beautiful, sacred. The consummation of a marriage is a bonding and a promise between two souls, not just the meeting of two bodies...

And that's what it's become now a days for so many... A mere meeting of two bodies engaging in intercourse for pleasure. No responsibilities, no strings attached, just animal lust... ANY ANIMAL CAN DO THAT! That's why human were made different. Marriage is supposed to be "Till death do us part." And sexual intercourse or lovemaking is supposed to be an expression of the two souls mingling with love, respect and commitment towards each other. And it's definitely IS enjoyable. It's for procreation... And it's been so abused... That wonderful gift, the ability to express your love to each other and create a new life with that expression has been so mangled and abused...

Someone asked me to write more perverted stories. I can't, I don't want to. I believe in making love, not just animal sex. The perversion of it has caused all these problems related to sex anyway.

I don't believe in having a sexual intercourse before marriage, though a couple of my stories may reflect an exception to the rule. But I will NOT pervert my own ideals on what it should be. 

And another thing, this entree is NOT supposed to be erotic. It's just the plain, simple, hard truth about the way the world is going today when they can take something as sacred as a girls virginity and drag it through dirt. And make it so that teenagers are actually ASHAMED that they have not lost their virginity!!

Whatever happened to being "The Virgin Bride"? Why wear white wedding gowns then?? White was a symbol of the purity of the virgin bride. Now it's just a mere traditional trend color.

Anyway, those who are committed enough to get married aren't the issue here. It's just that the girls and guys of today really have to put more self worth to themselves. Perhaps for guys it's always been a macho thing to be able to boast about how many girls they have slept with. It's so damn common at times that I have to just ignore it. I have a best friend who has no respect for women at all aside from being used as a hole to prick. And when he talks like that, he knows to expect me to hang up. Except to my one special person, to most guys, I'm just one of the guys. SO yes, I've heard about how cheap they consider the gal they used the night before for a one-night-stand. How they dump gals who want commitment after they've slept with the gal. Heard about how they go after a girl JUST because she's a virgin and they want to see who can break that first! And guys who trade bed mates more often than they change their shirts!

I can't say that the girls are all pure and good either. I know both genders have their faults. Girls who sleep around just as much as the guys. Girls who shamelessly flirt and try to arouse men, and then turn cold when the guy can't seem to control himself. Girls who also pick up and dumps guys because they want to have fun, but run from commitments.

Being a Bitch, and having slept with half the town is NOTHING to be proud of.

And being a Bastard, to leave the girl you've impregnated to drown and take the whole bulk of that responsibility is FAR FROM BEING manly. Because if THAT is what manhood is... Men should be castrated. But I know it's not, it's just tragic that it happens anyway.

It's just that people like this... Some of them live their whole lives without really having to regret it. But one way or another it goes catch up to them.

But those who end up being pregnant and NOT wanting to be so... They've just let their irresponsibility hurt a new life. They've perverted God's gift of procreation to man. They've cheapened life itself.

And I hate seeing it continue to happen every single day...